And it can be funny, in a way. She doesn't expect you to control her happiness, just as she doesn't want to control your happiness. Both situations are very hard, especially when you've unveiled and accepted the truth. But starting off in a positive way definitely helps set you up for what's ahead— and can help shake you out of any bad patterns you might be settling into.
As it turns out, aspirational message-sending does work — not all the time, and less often when the desirability gap is bigger. So, who is the girl who has game? She has self-esteem. Did these users simply think they were more desirable than they actually were?