Good luck! What the women say: Women seem to always be the ones fretting about the exclusive talk, but in reality, they seem to believe the time spent in the grey area should be about 11 weeks or at least a couple of months. This is the time where you will probably have the serious conversations that need to be had if a long term future is going to be on the cards.
If you live in a busy city like London or New York, or you have a load of hobbies and responsibilities, dating is just long of the many things you've got going on. She will be head over heels flattered no matter what you tell her. The palm-to-palm technique is probably the most popular form of handholding.