Talk to your kids about their feelings. Boundaries are hard to implement without seeming disinterested or taking a step back. I want to be clear that I am not trying to steer you in one direction or another — I am just inviting you to think about it because clarity on what you really want usually ends up solving the problem in the end. And to be honest, everyone responds well to someone who has boundaries and knows what is right for them.
On the other hand, waiting to reach those significant points in a relationship allows a couple time to get to know each other and to really consider whether the relationship is working. When a relationship is going to stick, however, it's far more likely that both partners have talked about the future, agreed "on the pace of the relationship and [are] committed to it," Susan Trombetti, of Exclusive Matchmaking , tells Bustle. You need to feel like you can let your guard down around them, and be your highest and best self. Talking openly can give you the information you need to accurately gauge your partner's level of commitment to you as well as your compatibility in life. You need to have chemistry AND need to sincerely enjoy being together.