Stop putting kids first. Doubtfire for a second here , and while I may never want kids of my own , I'm pretty stoked to find my own little place in Lunar's family. It is not normal to spend all your time with children, nor make your offspring your primary emotional support. This not only frees you to enjoy a healthy, post-divorce romantic life, you also model healthy dating and sexuality for your children. Putting kids before all else makes them neurotic and robs me of my potential to live the biggest, fullest life that I can — and model for my children that such a life is possible.
In fact, the children will come first most often. If this is the right man for you your children may be as happy about things as you are. Need to hit the gym?