This is entirely false, and misleading to the type. Their greatest goal and satisfaction as a parent is seeing their children grow into independent, rational adults. They tend to be cautious at the beginning of relationships and need time to open up and feel comfortable sharing a more intimate side of themselves.
Stick to evidence and analysis. However, if you can't stop what is causing this reaction, the INTP may conclude that your presence in his or her life creates more damage than good. One-on-one interaction, however, is a very different set of rules and expectations for an INTP.