If you are very social and have lots of friends, let them know. Intimacy breeds intimacy, distance breeds distance. Most persistent conflicts occur in areas where people are different in their values, beliefs, personality and communication styles, and interests. It is easy, carefree and passionate.
If you're withholding affection for your partner and not sharing your feelings with them, you will start feeling lonely eventually. They want to be loved for who they are, no matter what. You avoid. Try to focus more on living day to day, rather than focusing on or needing a particular outcome.