It's OK to give yourself as much time as you need because you not only want to be ready to welcome a new person into your life, but you want to also heal from those deep wounds caused by your divorce. Perhaps even thornier than pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays — not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups — is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. Looking out into the vastness of the dating pool, carrying your baggage in tow can be super-daunting.
Everyone loves love and when there is a lack of love in your life or even just nobody there to hear about that a-hole in accounting who is ruining your work life, you start feeling desperate and find yourself tangled up with the first person that expresses interest in your sad ass. Have a friend look over your profile to make sure it is enticing and not a bunch of fiction, as you want to meet someone who shares your interests. Be informed about online dating. The Drinker: When I was going through my divorce, my therapist warned me that people who are going through divorce are be more prone to alcohol addiction for two reasons: One, because they are stressed and they may use alcohol to numb the pain and anxiety of the divorce, and two, because they are often out a lot, at bars and restaurants and on dinner dates, where everyone is drinking. That makes relationships after divorce not just more successful, but more fun as well.