Take what happened to me a few weekends ago. Seriously, it is that bad. It's like being thrown in a serial killer's basement well. Obviously, I have my own baggage.
Attraction is what starts the ball rolling. One of my friends found who she thought was her perfect man, only to discover six months later that he lied about his name and age, and was married to a woman who was about to have his child. After all, I did the asking. I have several nieces and nephews and that was perfect for me.